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People tend to flirt only with serious things—madness, disaster, other people’s affections.
So is flirtation dangerous, exploiting the ambiguity of promises to sabotage our cherished notions of commitment?
Or is it, as Adam Phillips suggests, a productive pleasure, keeping things in play, letting us get to know them in different ways, allowing us the fascination of what is unconvincing?
He mentions the many, many comments people leave on his videos, trying to suss out exactly how Ferguson remains calm, charming, and very much \u003Ci\u003E himself, \u003C\u002Fi\u003Eeven as he stares down A-listers on network television.
\u003C\u002Fp\u003E\u003Cdiv data-iframely-id=\"WHS5BBB\" data-embedded-url=\"https:\u002F\u002com\u002Fen_us\u002Fvideo\u002F10-questions-you-always-wanted-to-ask-tantric-sex-guru\u002F594261e469bcc2931e91811b\" class=\"article__embed article__embed--iframely\"\u003E\u003Cdiv style=\"left:0;width:100%;height:0;position:relative;padding-bottom:56.2493%;\" data-iframely-smart-iframe=\"true\"\u003E\u003Ciframe data-img=\"\" data-iframely-url=\"\u002F\u002com\u002FWHS5BBB\" style=\"border:0;top:0;left:0;width:100%;height:100%;position:absolute;\" allowfullscreen=\"\" data-iframely-smart-iframe=\"true\" frameborder=\"0\"\u003E\u003C\u002Fiframe\u003E\u003C\u002Fdiv\u003E\u003C\u002Fdiv\u003E \u003Cp\u003E\"He is seen as an icon for flirting,\" says Fly of Ferguson.\"But I realized later that this was what had happened.\" \u003C\u002Fp\u003E \u003Cp\u003EThe Jayleno Fly, like most people who were fans of \u003Ci\u003E The Late Late Show\u003C\u002Fi\u003E, didn't strictly watch the program for Ferguson's cheekish interaction with women.(His channel also celebrates other \u003Ci\u003ELLS\u003C\u002Fi\u003E staples like Geoff the Robot, Seabiscuit, and the decade-long friendship that developed between Ferguson and Kristen Bell.) But the primary draw on You Tube seems to be the flirting supercuts.v=wr Y_H4m VCYg\" target=\"_blank\"\u003EHow To Flirt With Women\u003C\u002Fa\u003E,\" and \"\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Futm_source=stylizedembed_vice.com&utm_campaign=wjyjyn&site=vice\" frameborder=\"0\" style=\"border:0px none;margin:0px;\" allowfullscreen=\"\"\u003E\u003C\u002Fiframe\u003E\u003C\u002Fdiv\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI reached out to The Jayleno Fly \u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002F target=\"_blank\"\u003Ethrough his Patreon campaign\u003C\u002Fa\u003E, where he drums up 8 a month from fans happy to fund the continued reclamation of old Ferguson highlights.That's the conclusion drawn by the cumulative videos on \u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002F ZCka R8s P_Bn Xa Tj U2b A\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ethe 121,000 subscriber-strong Jayleno Fly You Tube channel\u003C\u002Fa\u003E.Every couple of weeks, its owner uploads compilations in tribute of Ferguson's beloved, underdog nine year run on CBS's \u003Ci\u003E The Late Late Show \u003C\u002Fi\u003Efranchise.As Phillips explores the links between literature and psychoanalysis—ranging from Philip Roth to Isaac Rosenberg, Karl Kraus to John Clare—psychoanalysis emerges as a multi-authored autobiography.Its subjects are love, loss, and memory; its authors are the analyst and the analysand, as well as the several selves brought to life in the process.v=EIa9_xs81MQ\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Eand has over a million views.\u003C\u002Fa\u003E Ferguson's flirty interview with a pre-Royalty Meghan Markle \u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002Fv=-EM2xi5Jnd0&t=68s\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Ehas nearly 10 million views\u003C\u002Fa\u003E, and though the popularity of that appearance was no doubt aided by Markle's becoming Duchess, other comps \u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002F ZCka R8s P_Bn Xa Tj U2b A\" target=\"_blank\"\u003Efeaturing Ferg and female guests on the channel are similarly high.\u003C\u002Fa\u003E The Jayleno Fly, who takes his moniker from \u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002F target=\"_blank\"\u003Ea recurring bit\u003C\u002Fa\u003E on the \u003Ci\u003E Late Late Show\u003C\u002Fi\u003E, is the most prominent historian of Ferguson's coquetry, but that should not discount the dozens of other collections from other anonymous You Tubers who've made vids titled \"\u003Ca href=\"https:\u002F\u002F